The tender bond between a husband and wife animates this profound work from Attwater. After meeting 53-year-old Bill, the chief counsel for California’s Water Resources Control Board, in Sacramento, California, in 1992, 41-year-old Attwater, who worked as a registered nurse while running her yarn and knitting store, fell in love with his gentlemanly ways and married him. Their medical problems started soon after the retirement. They dealt bravely with several health issues, including Attwater’s fall injuries and multiple surgeries, but it was Bill’s deteriorating health and diagnosis of terminal illness that upturned their lives eventually. In a crisp, matter-of-fact prose, Attwater talks about her inner and outer struggles—from the physical effects of caring for Bill to the fear of being left alone in the world—along her journey of caregiving. She conveys touching family predicaments with panache and honesty. Her writing is straightforward and moving, and her narrative has an urgent, intimate feeling to it. Throughout, she shares critical decision-making tips and coping tools for caregivers to help protect their own physical and mental well-being. Her story will resonate with the lived experience of ones who have spent their time giving or receiving care. Rich in personal anecdotes and practical suggestions, the books makes for a valuable guide for both caregivers and those who walk alongside them.
Categories: Non Fiction